Woman recounts abuse by male live-in partner: boiling water burns, knife attacks

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A female call center agent has endured grave abuse at the hands of her own partner.advertisement

In a “Kapuso Mo, Jessica Soho” episode, May said, “Hindi makatao itong ginawa niya sa akin (What he did to me was inhumane).”

May has a beautiful face and voice, but things drastically changed at the hands of her abusive partner.

She narrated that she first met Sandy at a call center in 2018. They were both separated from their partners, and during the first phases of their relationship, Sandy was thoughtful and generous then.

May soon fell in love with him. But after just a month, Sandy became possessive and jealous.

“Sobrang sakal ko na (I felt suffocated),” May narrated. “Lagi niya ko tinatadtad ng text. Bigla niyang sisilipin kung sino man iyong ka-chat. Parang may tendency itong tao na ito na manakit kasi sobrang seloso niya (He texted me nonstop. He’d always check who I’m chatting with.  It felt like he had a tendency to hurt others because of how jealous he could get).”

May was already planning to leave him, but she stayed because she got pregnant.

Sandy promised he’d change, but May said things just got worse.

May recalled one day in January when Sandy slapped her face so hard her lips bled.

“Inutusan niya iyong nanay niya na ipa-DNA test iyong bata kasi hindi niya daw anak iyon. Sabi niya pokpok daw ako (He ordered his mom to have the child undergo a DNA test because he said the child wasn’t his. He said I fooled around with men),” she said.

The DNA results confirmed that it was his child.

Despite what happened, May said she stayed with him so that their child would grow up having a father.

In March, when the lockdowns were implemented, May said the abuse became so much worse.

Things took a tragic turn when Sandy came home drunk on Sept. 7. May said she was sleeping when she woke up to the sound of an electric kettle boiling water.

When May asked Sandy what was the boiling water for, he said he was going to throw it at the rat that was running around their sink.

“Medyo kinakabahan na ako kasi tumatawa siya na parang pang-demonyo iyong tawa niya. (I became nervous because he laughed like a mad man),” May said.

All of a sudden, Sandy turned to May and her children.

“Tinutukan niya kami ng kutsilyo, ako tsaka iyong panganay kong anak. Gigil na gigil siya. Kagat-kagat niya pa iyong labi. ‘Huwag kayong sisigaw kung hindi papatayin ko kayo!’ (He pointed a knife to us, me and my eldest child. He was furious. He told us. ‘Don’t scream or I’m going to kill you!’)” May narrated.

Then Sandy moved to throw the boiling water at May’s face but she was able to quickly turn around.

“Ang ginawa ko, tumalikod ako. ‘Yung kamay ko pinangsalo ko sa ulo ko. Iyon iyong nabuhusan ng kumukulong tubig. Inubos niya lahat. Sobrang nanghina ako doon sa hapdi (What I did was, I turned around. I used my hands to protect my head. My hands got burned from the boiling water. He poured all of it. I felt so weak from the burns),” May said.

“Hindi ako makasigaw hanggang sa hinihiga niya ako. Pinuputol niya iyong buhok ko. Sabi niya, ‘maganda ka, ’di ba? Maganda ka?’ Tas hinihiwa-hiwa niya iyong ulo ko (I couldn’t scream. He tried to lay me down. He was cutting my hair. He said, ‘you’re beautiful, right? You’re beautiful?’).”

She said Sandy then came out with the knife and kept screaming that he’d go to jail. He claimed that May spent all of his money and was cheating on him.

Unfortunately, Sandy escaped that night. Meanwhile, May suffered from second degree burns.

KMJS tried to contact Sandy through text, but the team received no response.

May filed a blotter report twice against Sandy. Because of the incident, the barangay issued a protection order for May and her children.

The Philippine National Police added that Sandy will be charged with frustrated murder.

“Iniisip ko pag nabulag ako paano ako magtatrabaho para sa mga anak ko? Ayaw kong maging baldado kasi tatlo iyong anak ko (I thought what if I got blind, how can I work for my children? I have three children to raise),” she said.

Cases of domestic violence have increased in the country amid the lockdowns.

For victims like her, May said: “Para sa mga babaeng katulad ko o dinanas din iyong pagmamalupit ng mga kinakasama nila, huwag po kayong mahiyang magsalita at humingi ng tulong kasi maraming taong tutulong sa inyo. Krimen ito. Huwag kayong matakot kasi nandiyan ang batas, nandiyan ang Diyos. Tutulungan nila tayo.” 

(For women like me who have gone through abuse at the hands of their partners, don’t be afraid to speak up and ask for help. Many people will help you. This is a crime. Do not be afraid because the law is there, God is there. They will help us).

Kaela Malig/RC, GMA News